Love vs Lust

In the end it is all lust as long as youth allows you to indulge it. Love is just an aura given by the romantics and after that it is all fantasy.

- Kushwant Singh

Life Lessons from Rilke

"No one can advise or help you - no one. There is only one thing you should do. Go into yourself. Find out the reason that commands you to write; see whether it has spread its roots into the very depths of your heart; confess to yourself whether you would have to die if you were forbidden to write. This most of all: ask yourself in the most silent hour of your night: must I write? Dig into yourself for a deep answer. And if this answer rings out in assent, if you meet this solemn question with a strong, simple "I must," then build your life in accordance with this necessity; your while life, even into its humblest and most indifferent hour, must become a sign and witness to this impulse. Then come close to Nature. Then, as if no one had ever tried before, try to say what you see and feel and love and lose...................................................................................
................So, dear Sir, I can't give you any advice but this: to go into yourself and see how deep the place is from which your life flows; at its source you will find the answer to the question whether you must create. Accept that answer, just as it is given to you, without trying to interpret it. Perhaps you will discover that you are called to be an artist. Then take the destiny upon yourself, and bear it, its burden and its greatness, without ever asking what reward might come from outside. For the creator must be a world for himself and must find everything in himself and in Nature, to whom his whole life is devoted.

But after this descent into yourself and into your solitude, perhaps you will have to renounce becoming a poet (if, as I have said, one feels one could live without writing, then one shouldn't write at all). Nevertheless, even then, this self-searching that I as of you will not have been for nothing. Your life will still find its own paths from there, and that they may be good, rich, and wide is what I wish for you, more than I can say

What else can I tell you? It seems to me that everything has its proper emphasis; and finally I want to add just one more bit of advice: to keep growing, silently and earnestly, through your while development; you couldn't disturb it any more violently than by looking outside and waiting for outside answers to question that only your innermost feeling, in your quietest hour, can perhaps answer."

- Letters to a young poet (Rainer Maria Rilke)

Goal

To live only for some future goal is shallow. It's the sides of the mountain which sustain life, not the top. Here's where things grow.

But of course, without the top you can't have any sides. It's the top that defines the sides. So on we go…

'Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance', Robert Pirsig

Unconditional Love

I think it is very easy to hate a person..it is easy to not trust ...it is easy to point fingers..it is very easy to believe what is not true...most first reactions are always to point fingers and blame...what is truly courageous is honesty and love...unconditional love....how many people in our lives do we love unconditionally...are we even capable of it?
love is hard..to keep loving is harder...I want to unconditionally love...to live the life I have with love..I want to live my life like my mother does hers....she passed on nothing but unconditional love and faith to me and my sister....it is our only strength and heritage

I only hope my life is worthy of the values my mother gave me

Maturity

Who would you call a mature person? Does maturity come with age?

When was the last time you were swept off your feet by some one, some thing, some place, whatever? Have you ever experienced intense soul soaring happiness ever in your life?

Debate

A: "i like people who stick strongly to their ideals...come wht may....i havent come across anyone in life who has been this way...they give away at some point of time...more than anythin it takes strength of heart..and i wudnt say its impossible...people are usually scared of wht they think and believe...they need others to give them the conviction...the point is not of being right or wrong ..but is to be able to hold on..and have an unconditional attitude to life...and keep believing in themselves and the seamless boundaries the human mind can yet transcend..."

N: "i feel.....people chould change and must change....if you think you are wrong you have the right to be right...one must always leave room for mistakes and correcting them...we all change..knowing that you are in the>worng or u have made the wrong choices and sticking by it is kinda dumb...change is always for the better,....it is the human perception of change that must change..."

A: "i wouldnt agree with u on that....a person's convictions suddenly seem wrong one fine day..coz people around them make them want to think so....as i sad..some people jus dont have it in them...to hold on...thats wht separates the ordinary from the extraordinary..."

N: "you are curbing an individual's freedom by not giving him an option...a person should be free to do whatever he wants...if he wants to quit he should...it is pointless to hold a person to something...because it is impossible to remain the same....he wud be lying if he said he didnt believe in change..one must learn to adapt...otherwise you will just decay....it is only the fittest that survive...the rest wither and die....it is good to have principles and stick to them....all i am saying is you cannot crucify a person to being ordinary just because he decided to make a choice...
sometimes when you listen to certain people what they say makes sense to you....and you see yourself in a totally different light...man is not a solitary animal...there is a reason why he is a social animal...roark cannot exist in real life....he is the ideal that can exist only in a novel ...have you noticed..he doesnt have a family...a mother...a father...it makes a big difference.. "

yesterday i was walking home and there was this wave of breeze so strong that all the trees and plants along the way were swaying the leaves were dancing in the wind it was such a beautiful sight...i felt it was nature talking to me...i was so happy that moment...i wanted to share that happiness..,..i was frantically calling people ....then i realized i was just wasting that moment...i decided to just stop and soak up all the happiness within me...people must've found me crazy smiling ear to ear and walking on the street :).....today it is back to the same old routine....but that moment that i enjoyed yesterday is something precious...

Freedom

How would you define freedom in terms of its significance in an individual's life?